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Sex preceding vows
A renewed debate on premarital sex
Gina Covelli
Issue date: 10/7/04 Section: Opinions
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Is sex before marriage really such a bad thing? Many religious groups believe that it is a terrible sin to have sex before marriage. And maybe it is. The beauty about religion is that it is something you have to believe in to make it true. If you don't believe that having sex before marriage is a sin, then it isn't.
Within Christianity it is believed that your sexuality is a gift from God and it should be used to bring honor, respect, and dignity to both you and God. Many denominations in the Christian Church teaches its followers to save all of who you are for the person you are going to marry because God created you to be with only one person.
According to Christianity, sex is a bond between two people that should be used only within the context of marriage. When you form that bond outside of marriage, you are promising all of you without really meaning it. When you actually get married, the intense bond that is made by sex is weaker because it is not the only time you've made that bond.
However, the morals of the mass majority have changed over time. Sex is no longer a way of coming closer to God. It is more of a Friday night activity. It is understandable how this transition from serious to frivolous happened. For many, religion is no longer the foundation of our lives but more of a crutch to lean on in desperate times.
I suppose you could say that I am caught in the middle. I believe sex is a divine union between man and woman, a way of uniting two lost souls to bring them closer to God. Having sex is not only a way to have fun. Do you necessarily have to be married to have a divine union? I don't think so. I do think it is a wise decision to wait until you get married before having sex. There is just something very reassuring about knowing only one person is going to invade your space.
I am not saying that you should go around giving it out all the time, but you are not going to rot in hell if you have sex before marriage. As long as you care immensely about the person you are with and you both understand the seriousness involved in having sex, then it's okay. Sex is a very serious thing that should only happen when there is a strong connection between you and the other person.
There is a difference between having sex and making love, because love and sex are not the same thing. It is difficult to determine when you are in love. Sleeping with someone does not mean that they love you or that you love them. It simply means that you are sharing bodily fluids.
Love is a deep emotional connection consisting of adoration, devotion, compassion, desire, endearment, sacrifice, friendship, and trust.
It is hard to follow a path of righteousness when it seems as if you are walking that path alone. It is also difficult to walk a path that leads you away from the church because of the judgments that other people make.
I am not here to judge anyone or even have the audacity to say that my opinion is right. I guess we all need to follow the paths that are right for us, and allow life to happen. Whether you decide to have sex before or after you are married is a judgment call that you have to make based upon your own belief system.
Within Christianity it is believed that your sexuality is a gift from God and it should be used to bring honor, respect, and dignity to both you and God. Many denominations in the Christian Church teaches its followers to save all of who you are for the person you are going to marry because God created you to be with only one person.
According to Christianity, sex is a bond between two people that should be used only within the context of marriage. When you form that bond outside of marriage, you are promising all of you without really meaning it. When you actually get married, the intense bond that is made by sex is weaker because it is not the only time you've made that bond.
However, the morals of the mass majority have changed over time. Sex is no longer a way of coming closer to God. It is more of a Friday night activity. It is understandable how this transition from serious to frivolous happened. For many, religion is no longer the foundation of our lives but more of a crutch to lean on in desperate times.
I suppose you could say that I am caught in the middle. I believe sex is a divine union between man and woman, a way of uniting two lost souls to bring them closer to God. Having sex is not only a way to have fun. Do you necessarily have to be married to have a divine union? I don't think so. I do think it is a wise decision to wait until you get married before having sex. There is just something very reassuring about knowing only one person is going to invade your space.
I am not saying that you should go around giving it out all the time, but you are not going to rot in hell if you have sex before marriage. As long as you care immensely about the person you are with and you both understand the seriousness involved in having sex, then it's okay. Sex is a very serious thing that should only happen when there is a strong connection between you and the other person.
There is a difference between having sex and making love, because love and sex are not the same thing. It is difficult to determine when you are in love. Sleeping with someone does not mean that they love you or that you love them. It simply means that you are sharing bodily fluids.
Love is a deep emotional connection consisting of adoration, devotion, compassion, desire, endearment, sacrifice, friendship, and trust.
It is hard to follow a path of righteousness when it seems as if you are walking that path alone. It is also difficult to walk a path that leads you away from the church because of the judgments that other people make.
I am not here to judge anyone or even have the audacity to say that my opinion is right. I guess we all need to follow the paths that are right for us, and allow life to happen. Whether you decide to have sex before or after you are married is a judgment call that you have to make based upon your own belief system.
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